Friday, April 20, 2012

"You are going to see our bad story..."


April 20th
10am

      Sitting on 
wicker furniture
    on the patio
          of 
  Bourbon Coffee, 

 overlooking 
   the hills
of Rwanda,,, 

 the cool 
      breeze
drifting 
   through 
the place... 

  cars
     & 
    motorbikes

pass below... 

   the sun 
beating 
     down
from high
  above... 

      sipping on 
African 
        coffee... 

a mixture of 
     espresso, 
ginger, & 
      other potent
spices
     fill my taste 
           buds... 

  I look out 
at the 
     lush green 
hillside, 
        speckled
with orange 
     tin
       roofs,

set against 
     the backdrop 
of a bright 
      blue sky, 
filled with 
   thick white
clouds 
    that hint 
          of 
afternoon 
    showers
ahead... 

   palm trees 
and other 
         familiar
trees dot
   the hillside... 

 the smell 
    of fresh 
 baked bread 
         fills
 the place... 


  it feels 
like 
  home... 

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April 20th
 6 pm

    Today, we visited one of the Rwandan genocide memorials, about 45 minutes outside
of Kigali.  We packed into the taxi car like sardines and set out for Ntarama.  The ride was
absolutely gorgeous.  Deep valleys and tall mountains surrounded us on either side... 
Men passed by, transporting large bundles on bicycles... women carried bundles on their 
heads and shoulders as children ran ahead of them.  
     The smell of exhaust wafting in through one window and out the next... dust flying in
our eyes as other vehicles passed by... the breeze whipping my hair around into my face
was all that helped me overcome the warmth of the afternoon and the heat generating from 
Jessie and Matthew, sitting on either side of me. "TIA," as they say...  This is Africa.  
I love it... dirt, heat & all. I don't think of these things when I think of Africa, though.  I 
think of the strength, and the resilience of the people here. 
     This month marks the 18th anniversary of the Rwandan Genocide of 1994.  All over the
city of Kigali, as well as throughout the outskirts of the city, purple and white banners hang
in commemoration.  They read: "Learning from our history to build a brighter future."  If 
you do not know the history of the genocide, I highly recommend you research it.  The 
reconciliation efforts since the genocide display grace in such a powerful, powerful way.  
      As we made our way to the memorial at Ntarama, we spoke with Jean Pierre, our driver,
who spoke some English.  "You are going to see our bad story," he commented.  We pulled 
up to the place, and climbed out of the taxi.  A woman met us at the gate to guide us through 
the memorial site.  
      The first structure we came to was a church.  She explained to us that in the past, people 
had fled to this place for refuge during times of violence and were safe.  The Tutsis fled to 
this place in 1994, in hopes that they would be safe from the genocide.  When we stepped 
inside the clay building with a tin roof, to the right of us was a rack.  On the top and bottom 
racks were piles of the bones of the people who had perished here. On the middle rack, their
skulls were displayed in rows.  
       Our guide explained to us that those who were born after the genocide are taught about 
it in school, then brought here "to know". Further in, the clothes of the people who perished
here lined the walls, laid across the  concrete, 6-inch tall "pews", and hung from the 
windows and the rafters. There were so many.  In the front of the church, to the right and on 
the floor, were machetes, axes, and other weapons that had been used here.  Next to these, 
were supplies that the Tutsis had brought with them to survive until the violence had 
subsided... cups, bowls, shoes, bottles books, etc.  Where the altar normally would be, hung 
another purple and white banner that read: 
     
          "If you knew me, 
             and you knew 
                 yourself, 
               You would not 
                         kill me."
   
      Tears stung my eyes as I read these words.  These people, the Tutsis and the Hutus, were 
neighbors, friends, and coworkers... In the next structure, there were school books and Bibles
that the children had brought along so they could keep up with their school work until they 
were able to go back to school.  The only other thing in this structure was a coffin, covered
in cloth, and a cross placed on top with words that I could not read written on it.  It was 
sitting underneath the only window in the structure, looking out over a field, where the sun
was beaming down, and a single butterfly fluttered about... 

        [side note: Everywhere I have traveled, and in every stage of my life, God has always 
      sent a butterfly to me to remind me that He is with me still, and that He loves me much.
      In Haiti, He sent one to me while I walked through a graveyard... so strange the places 
      He decides to show himself... yet, I do not think it is without purpose.]

       As we walked out and around the back of the church building, we could see where 
grenades had exploded and left holes in the corners and the sides of the building... the 
window panes full of shards of glass...
       The next structure we were led to had been the kitchen.  This building had been 
destroyed by fire.  Pots and pans were strewn around the floor... remnants of wooden 
cabinets leaned against the remaining walls... one wall was completely destroyed... 
       After this we were led into the Sunday school room, were the children had studied and
hid.  This was by far, the hardest place to face. Inside, the front left corner was stained a 
dark brown color.  Our guide explained that this was where they had thrown the children up 
against the wall and killed them.  After this, our guide walked out of the room.  We stayed 
here for a long time.  There were dried up flowers laid everywhere in the front of the room
that people had left.  There was a banner that children that had survived the genocide 
elsewhere had written... 

            "Your death 
                     has left 
           a great gap
               in our life
                  and we will
            never forget
                         you."

        Silence filled the place as we sat and processed what we were seeing... the weight of it, 
the effects it's had on the country, etc.  After a long period of time, we got up to leave.  As we
were walking back, we asked what the purple and the white in all the banners stood for... 
 "The purple," she said, "stands for mourning... the white," she continued, "stands for hope." 

          These people have endured so much heartache and loss... none have been left unaffected
in one way or another.  The stories of reconciliation that I have heard... are absolutely... 
incredible, powerful, moving, inspiring... 
           The fact that they can say to one another, "You killed my mother, father, brother, or 
sister," and with the same breath, say, "I forgive you..." is powerful beyond words.  They have 
a long way to go, but they have come so far, and have so much to teach us. 
      

Thursday, April 19, 2012

To Africa: The Journey Begins...

April 17th

Thank you
    for reminding
me
   who I am
       and
what
    I stand
for...
 
    Your letter
    was the
opening
    to my
journey...

    The timing
was
   more
than
    perfect.

Thank you.

________________________________________________


    I was asked by my dear roommate last night,
what I hoped to leave with the children and the
people of Africa...
     It took me a while to formulate an answer to
that question.  First of all, at the present, I do not
feel like I have anything to offer them, other than
my love and attention.  They have far more to
teach me than I will ever be able to offer them. 
     My hope for this trip, my goal if you will, is
to listen... and to learn... and to absorb
everything.  I need to learn about what their
current situation is.. about the issues in all their
complexity... I need to know what peace would
look like in THEIR context, not ours. I need to
learn more about what is already being done,
what isn't being done, what kind of change needs
to take place, and how that kind of change and
peace can happen. 
      I am curious to see how the people view
foreigners coming into their country wanting
to help.  What are they doing that is affective,
and what just doesn't work.  I am curious...
about everything - the way they interact with
each other, what an ordinary day looks like for
them, their hopes and their dreams for the
future... everything. 
      I need to know these things in order to know
how I can help them, if I can help them. 
I need to know. Maybe I will finally understand
why God put this place in my heart with such
great intensity. Maybe I will be given
direction. Whatever the reason that I am on my
way to Africa at this time, in these places, with
these people... one thing is certain... I will not
come back the same. It is not an option... I
highly doubt that it is even possible. 
      So, here's to the journey... wherever it may
lead. May I keep my heart, eyes, and ears open,
and soak everything in and keep it with me
always.

_______________________________________________________________


Above the clouds
   once again,

I am in awe
    of the beauty.

It never gets
      old,

soaring
     through
the air
    like eagles...

The world
      is becoming
a smaller
     & smaller
place to me.

   God has
shown
      me
many things
   in my
       life-

my eyes
     have seen
glorious landscapes,
    mighty waterfalls,
rolling hills,
       deep valleys,
bright blue waters,
   jagged cliffs,
magnificent oaks...

they have
     seen
        exotic
creatures,

    such a
wide diversity
    of people
groups
      &
    cultures
        &
         religions...

I wonder
      why it is
that He
    has
 shown me
       such
          things...

what purpose
      of mine
that requires
    such a
        unique,
 broadened
       perspective?

I hope
   I catch
a glimpse
   soon
of this
      purpose...

I believe
     it is
        coming
soon...

         Lord give
me patience
    & an open
heart. 

________________________________________________________


  For so long, I've wanted to bring these children's
stories to the rest of the world through my art...
While I still hope to do so, I wonder if that might
look much different that I expected...
   What if I could enable & empower them to do
that themselves? What could that look like? I could
teach them of the things I've learned on my journey
as an artist... the shift of perspective, the
multi-faceted purposes and opportunities of art and
creativity and its many different forms, provide them
with the supplies and tools they need, display it for
all to see, create programs for sustainability, using
their art forms, etc. By doing so, they would be
able to tell their stories and heartaches, portray the
beauty of their culture, and show the world their
hopes and dreams for the future.  Ideas of putting
advocacy, rehabilitation, reconciliation, and
sustainability into their own hands fill my mind.
      Art is such a powerful form of therapy. These
children have experienced such deep emotional
traumas. Through expressing themselves through
the various forms of art (visual art, poetry/writing, drama,
music, storytelling, etc.) they are able to communicate
and therefore process their trauma, understand, and
overcome it. My ideas do not stop at rehabilitation,
though. Incorporating collaborative pieces into
reconciliation efforts, using their pieces as
advocacy tools to bring about big change in the
root of the issues, showing the world the beauty
of their culture through their own perspective,
giving them the skills, confidence, leadership skills,
education and empowerment to make big change
happen themselves, in the present and as future
leaders in their villages, communities, and
countries.  I want to help them find their unique
passions/talents and help them harness it, embrace it,
refine it, and utilize it.

___________________________________________________________

April 18th

"For Jade..."

    We arrived in Doha, Qatar
maybe an hour before sunset...

      I stepped off the plane
into the warm evening
breeze

and then

I looked up.

      There, hanging
in the center
      of the sky,
was the most
           brilliant,
intense,
      round ball
of fire,
      that is the
 sun,
    that I have
ever seen...

   There were no
      clouds
          in sight...

the sky was
     a faded burnt
             orange
color...

    a canvas
          to display
 the brilliance
      of the
Middle Eastern
          sun.

    There is such
a beauty in
       these people...

a quiet strength.

   I can see
warmth in them,

  but interacting
is intimidating
      from both
perspectives,

      because of
the cultural
         differences
& stereotypes
    placed on
both
   by our own
cultures.

     Given the
time
    and opportunity
to speak at
            length,

the intimidation
         would easily
dissolve,
     and friendships
could be
      formed.

The key
     is having
an open
       mind

and an
     open heart

to take the
      time
to listen
     and learn
and understand
   each other. 

It only
     takes
being willing
  to
       step out
into the
     unknown

and face that
    discomfort
that comes
    from
unfamiliarity

  in order to
overcome
     the intimidation
and fear.

    Given the right
connections
     and provisions,

I could
    see you
thriving here...

 [Though I know
you could
thrive anywhere]

Writing
      &
   painting;

 learning
      & growing;

 forming
       relationships,



displaying
             light

         &
 
conveying
             hope.

__________________________________________

April 19th
5:50am

We landed in 
    Entebbe
for a brief 
      layover...
our last stop
   before
      landing
in Rwanda, 
  but my first 
glimpse 
      of Africa... 

As we were
     landing, 
I could 
    make out
shadows 
      of a wide
river below, 
  reflecting 
the
   dim, hazy
sliver 
   of the 
 African moon...

the flashing
    lights
from the 
    airplane
illuminated
  the 
    African soil
as we
  taxied 
around the 
     runway... 

I could
   scream
 with thrill 
      &
    excitement
  if not 
      for 
my 
  beyond
exhausted 
     state... 

time 
   has become
meaningless

  in the past
30 something
    hours  
that we have 
    been 
traveling

   through 
time zone 
     after 
        time zone... 

 I can't even 
     be positive 
that I know
        what day 
it might be...

  I am so 
          eager
 to see
      everything,

yet 
  an barely 
keep 
   my eyes
open... 

    the sky is 
beginning
   to lighten
as the 
    sun 
      steadily
makes 
    its way
over the
       horizon...

Oh, 
   African sun, 
how thyself! 

 How I 
     have longed
for this
   moment
      for years! 

 Hello, Africa, 
      land that 
has stolen
        my heart, 

    initially
without my 
       consent, 
but I 
   have come 
to love 
     you so... 

     teach me 
 those lessons
         you 
   have for 
      me... 
 
  promise
not to 
    leave me 
  unchanged, 

rather
    give me
renewal
    & 
  rebirth... 

__________________________________________________________ 


   After touching down in Rwanda, Jessie and I took a cab from the airport to our hotel 
in Kigali. As soon as I stepped outside, the smells of this African city filled my 
senses. Cars and motorbikes weaved in and out of each other down street after street,
passing crowds of people walking down the streets of Rwanda.  With each person I saw, 
I wondered to myself, "How have you personally been affected by the genocide that 
occurred here 18 years ago this month?" 
    We arrived  at the hotel around 8am, checked in, and were taken up to our room.  It is 
a small room with old wooden furniture, two little beds, and a bathroom with a tub. 
It is such a lovely, perfect room. Bethany and Matthew had already left for meetings by the 
time we arrived, so we decided to take the opportunity to catch up on sleep. With the 
African sun filtering in through the gold curtains, and the sounds of the city below, I drifted
off to sleep... 

     We slept through most of the afternoon, and awoke to the beating of rain on tin roofs all
around us.  I looked over the balcony and could barely see the mountains in the distance 
through the sheets of rain.  We took turns bathing, then went back out to the balcony to enjoy 
the calmness after the rain had ceased for the moment... It is the rainy season here - windy 
and chilly when the rains come.  It is absolutely gorgeous and the land is so rich and so green.  
Birds that look like small eagles soar over us. Oh, to be a bird in Africa! The sky is filled with 
shades of grey and blue, threatening to open up at any moment. 

_____________________________________________________________



We finally met up with Bethany and Matthew shortly after this in Bethany's room. This is the 
first time that the four of us have ever been together in the same place.  We spent time
catching up on Bethany and Matthew's time in Rwanda thus far, and our stories of our 
adventures in the Qatar airport. We spoke briefly about the game plan for the next few days
before we leave for the training, then went downstairs for dinner and coffee while we waited
for Didi to arrive from Goma.  I have been waiting in great anticipation for the day I would 
meet this man. Didi works with the boys at the Peace Lives Center, a rehabilitation center
for former child soldiers in Congo. When Didi arrived, it was such a sweet time of 
introduction and greeting. We pulled up a chair to our tiny table in the hotel restaurant to talk 
about the upcoming training that Didi has been primarily coordinating, plans to cross into 
Congo afterwards, logistics of the trip, etc. I cannot express with words the overwhelming 
joy that filled my heart hearing Didi talk about the boys, his family, etc.  His passion, pure
heart, and work ethic inspire me so! He has such a beautiful spirit. 
                                                                                   "We must be busy.  It is good to work." 
    As we all held hands under the table, and Didi began to pray in Swahili, I was no longer able 
to contain all my heart's emotion, and tears began to flow... tears of joy, hope, and 
anticipation... 
    There were many hugs and "lala salama's" (sweet dreams in Swahili) as we told Didi goodbye
till Sunday. I am so excited to meet the other 20ish leaders that we will be trained in the 
Empower program with! As Didi says, "It is going to be [fine]." After the training concludes on 
Friday, Lord willing, we will cross over into Congo, where we will work with the girls at the 
Dina Center, as well as the boys at the Peace Lives Center. 
    
    I cannot express how thankful I am to have this opportunity to meet these incredible people, 
and to just be able to sit and soak in everything and learn... for this opportunity to see with my 
own eyes what I've been a part of for the past year of my life.  
    My heart is overwhelmed with joy, peace, & contentment, now that I finally caught up with it
after it took off to Africa years ago.  If I am honest with myself, my greatest desire... if I had one 
wish... it would be to live in Africa, paint, build strong relationships with the people, help 
anywhere and everywhere help is needed, work with my hands, play with kids, paint with them
and work with them & those that care for them...


    God, 

         Lead me, guide me, 
move me, carry me, push me, 
mold me... 
Your will for your glory, God. 
I am here, heart wide open. 
You know I would leave 
everything, 
and go anywhere in a heartbeat...  
Show me the plans 
         you have for me....    


                                     M